I am generally a very agreeable person. Almost to a fault. There's very little out there thyat I let get under my skin, especially when it comes to the little things. Small decisions, are just not something I am good at. It is very rare that I make a demand on anyone. Friends, family, coworkers, etc. all seem to agree that this is very irritating. Here's a scenario:
Before I went down to the Reunoin, Tammi had asked me (over the phone) what kind of beer I drank. I was very non-committal. You see, the type of beer I drink really doesn't matter. I am a self-described "beer whore". I like beer. I've aquired a taste for it. I can actually distinguish Bud Light from Miller Lite by taste alone. But does it really matter? No. So far, I've never met a beer I didn't like.
So, when I said that "I don't care" what beer she got, to Tammi, I meant it. It's not important, so I payed it little heed. I happen to drink Miller Lite on a daily basis, but it doesn't matter what exact brand it is. I like them all. From the stoutest of Ales to the lightest of Pilsner's, it doesn't matter. The only little thing that I request is that you don't add any fruit to my beer. Corona is a good example of this, as it is very common to have a slice of Lime added to it. Whenever I get a Red Stripe at my favorite bar, they try to do the same, but I browbeat the waitress until she remembers to leave out the lime.
I'm just not a very picky person. Until it's something important, then I'm the pickiest person alive. This makes it tough on the people around me, because I come off as indecisive. It's just that those important situations just don't crop up much whenever I'm just hanging out with folks. I'd rather see them make the decision to go, do, eat, drink, or whatever than take the chance that what I thought of would make them miserable. I can generally have a good time just about anywhere, and even if I'm not having the best of times, I can put up with it as long as I'm not in any physical pain.
So, if I'm ever around, and you hear me say things like "I don't care" or "I don't mind" just rest assured that I really don't, and try not to let it get to you. If the situation warrants it, never doubt that I'll take a stand.
Posted by Johnny - Oh at February 19, 2005 10:01 AMWell, for all we have in common (and it's a lot), this is one thing we don't. I'm picky. Everything.
I like Coke, but hate Pepsi. That sort of picky.
:)
Posted by: _Jon at February 19, 2005 04:31 PMYou may want to try this...
If you're in the situation like going to a party - it's often easier for the host to put specific stuff on their shopping list. You might say - "do you have a type of beer you like?" If they don't, then you can say, "I like any kind of beer, but generally drink Miller Lite at home." This gives them the option of getting either ML or anything else they might want to pick up.
As for going out with friends. Have a place in mind that you like to go. About every 5th time, you can then chime in and say "let's go here". Right now, you leave all the decisions up to everyone else (which is easy for you). But I'm sure your friends have the same thoughts you do about going to a place others may not like. So, think of one or two and every once in a while, you can make the choice. If they veto the choice - no problem - wait about 5 more times before bringing it up again.
Every once in a while, you should make it easy on your friends :-)
Posted by: Teresa at February 19, 2005 05:59 PMOO! That's GOOD Teresa. I like that!
No WONDER you're my favorite :-)
Posted by: Harvey at February 19, 2005 11:56 PMJust why are men like that? They can never make small decisions?
My hubby is like that and I tell you it pisses me off because I am the one that is forced to make the small decisions. Like where to go out for dinner or what take home to get.
I mean for once I would just like him to make that decision cause I hate doing it 100% of the time.
Make the freaking small decision and get on with life.
Christ almighty, men!
Posted by: Machelle at February 20, 2005 11:07 AMActually Machelle - the reason I had some advice for Johnny is because I'm exactly the same way. It was VERY hard for me to answer people when they asked what I liked or what I wanted to do. (still is for that matter - but I squash it) So, I had to figure out a way to kinda force myself to do it. FWIW that's the method I came up with.
Posted by: Teresa at February 20, 2005 12:21 PM